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Looking for Advice. Thanks for Help.

Mon Sep 24, 2007, 6:30 AM
  • Mood: Regretful
I have to do the following, but don't know how... If you would please give me advice, then read on.

I want to drop out of college. Yes, may sound stupid, dumb, moronic. But I have reasons. First, there's no point in studying in an university where there is nothing that I want to study; why would I spend my life in an area I'm not interested in? Second, I'm only wasting my parents' money and effort, because of said lack of interest, and my noticeable decrease in academic efficiency - which has, in fact, turned to inefficiency - and I am tired of doing that to them. Three, I don't feel like I deserve it anymore, not for some time anyways. I have to learn to work hard and be willing to make the sacrifices required to succeed, and until then, I do not wish to go on taking the easy way.

Obviously, I have a plan. I intend to get a job, with which I'll pay my parents all the money they spent on me this semester, and save the rest for my future education. Additionally, my plan is to keep studying, but independently; meaning, out of school, reviewing all my knowledge using my old books and notes, and other books and resources I may get my hands into; later on, study again in an university. Start with the efficiency and sacrifices; among those sacrifices: no more videogames, decrease TV time 90%, spend most of my time working, studying, and helping out at home.

This sounds hard, yes, and I want it to be that way, because I always take the easy way out, and I realized that is not doing any good to anyone, and is in fact causing trouble to myself and others, and I've had it, I do not wish to be a burden for my family anymore.

Now, this may sound a little selfish, but I would like to ask a favor of you. Could you please give me some advice on how to tell my parents? I'm going to get advice at school anyways, but I have to tell them that, and this time, I'm willing to take on the consequences, no matter how painful it is.

p.s.- Evidently, this means my time online will have to decrease, but I'll always have some time for you, my friends. You mean a lot to me, there are no words to describe how grateful I am to have wonderful friends as you.

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~GEFAHRLICH Sep 24, 2007, 7:06:53 AM
Nel, tu agarra el dinero de tu jefe y lárgate al extranjero

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*Centauran Sep 24, 2007, 8:33:45 AM
The decision to quit college or not should be made entirely upon what you intend to do with the rest of your life. It is possible to get a good job without 'the piece of paper', but it's unlikely that you will go too far without it. There are too many people out there who've said 'Oh - I can always go back when I want - I'll do it later'. I can only advise you to stick it out - you can always specialise - change your direction later. I did 9 and a half years of night-school to get my diploma - it wasn't pleasant. I'd far rather have done it in four years full time - now I look back on it. Unluckily for me, I didn't have the choice - I had to work for my living at the age of 17. You have a clear choice - you may need professional help to make the correct one.
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~ShadowWolfX1 Sep 24, 2007, 9:42:07 AM
Serious issues require a serious approach. On the matter of quitting the college matter, well thats understandable since people change majors a lot. There are few who do not change their majors, however. The point is telling the parental units though.

In the end I'd take the direct approach and not beat around the bush. Just tell them flat out. I know it may seem a little tactless, a little straight forward, but a big issue requires one to be decisive in their actions. Explain to them how you feel and the reasons why. There are situations that call for a light touch and ones that require a direct one and a blow like this, even if softened, is going to hit relatively the same so may as well not waste time and show some merit by being upfront about it.

Thats just my two cents.

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*Hadarniel Sep 24, 2007, 9:48:15 AM
jeje, eres muy impulsivo, verdad?^^;

la verdad es ke yo no sería capaz de hacer eso, y prefiero hacer lo necesario para mi bien y el de mi familia

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*Hadarniel Sep 24, 2007, 9:50:35 AM
Perhaps you're right, maybe I shouldn't quit. But at this point, I probably have no choice, since it's probable my scholarship will sink... Besides, it may be tough, yes, but I want tough right now, because only that way will I be able to become stronger.
Of course, I will talk to my parents, and the school counselors, before actually putting this plan into action.
Thanks for sharing your experience with me, and for your concern my friend :hug:

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*Hadarniel Sep 24, 2007, 9:52:01 AM
That's a good idea. And it's pretty much what I thought of doing in the first place. However, I wanted advice before telling, and now that I see I'm advised to do that, I probably will.
Thanks =)

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Mood: Hopeless ~azmariaceleste Sep 24, 2007, 10:45:50 AM
I don't think you should quit school...:( It's so hard to work and then go back to school!! I don't speak from experience because I've always been in school. Even if I hated my classes and was feeling unmotivated I'd still try to stick it out and get the semester over with.

Course that's just me...you have such strong feelings towards this. I wish I was more helpful with advice...:(

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~GEFAHRLICH Sep 24, 2007, 10:46:55 AM
Si, a veces soy impulsivo. Pero debes preguntarte qué es en realidad lo mejor para ti, y en este caso para tu familia ( a quienes les hiciste gastar X cantidad de baro )

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*Hadarniel Sep 24, 2007, 11:00:16 AM
pues sí, les hice gastar en balde, es cierto. pero ya intenté irme, y pues me dí cuenta que eso solo empeoraría las cosas, solo hice sentir muy mal a mi familia, y no kiero ke vuelvan a pasar por eso...

lo mejor para mi, no lo sé, y no estoy seguro siquiera si me importa, pero si de algo estoy seguro, es ke kiero lo mejor para ellos, y esa preocupación y tristeza que les causé aquella vez no son lo mejor para su bien...

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*Hadarniel Sep 24, 2007, 11:01:45 AM
don't worry so much about it, your concern for my well being makes me feel a bit better, and even if it's not advice, it's much more valuable
thank you :hug:

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